Control Your Anger Before it Controls You

control your anger before it controls you

Author: Hamil Almisk

Longman Dictionary define anger as a strong feeling of wanting to hurt or criticize someone because they have done something bad to you or been unkind to you. We as a human face sometimes some people who try to hurt or insult us .So we become angry so easily. Great people just who can control themselves in such attitude like this.

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 8.135, Narrated Abu Huraira, r.a.

Allah's Apostle Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 8.137, Narrated Abu Huraira, r.a.

A man said to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), "Advise me!" The Prophet said, "Do not become angry and furious." The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious."

So as you see anger is dangerous.We should avoid it. But we have two kinds of anger .We will explain it below

The first kind anger for sake of Allah . For example , when father sees his son sleep in prayer time .Then he gets angry of it and tell his son to pray and not do it again .This is good anger.

The second kind of anger is for something else not for sake of Allah . This is unacceptable in Islam. For example if someone interrupt your speech suddenly. some people get mad and not continue his speech. This is not acceptable.

We have to be flexible especially with three kinds of people .

First kind, Ignorant people because sometimes most of their mistakes are result of being ignorant. So we should not get mad when they make such mistake.

Second one, Old people because sometimes most of their mistakes are result of psychology of  their age . So we should also not get mad when they make such mistake.

Third one, Children because most of their mistakes are a result of their short experience in this life. So we should also not get mad when they make such mistake.

So if you get angry what should you do ?. Islam introduce some solutions for this case.


Hadith - Sunan of Abu Dawood, Narrated Atiyyah as-Sa'di, r.a.

AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.

So one of the solutions Islam introduce is performing ablution. Another solution comes in this.

Hadith - Sunan of Abu Dawood, Narrated Abu Dharr, r.a.

The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.

As you see you have move to change your place and situation. This will help you a lot to come down and become quite.

At the end of my article, I advised you not get angry as Prophet Muhammad advised his companion .



About the Author:

I am a teacher of English .

Article Source: ArticlesBase.com - control your anger before it controls you

"Good deeds are not equal to the evil ones. Repel other's evil deeds with your good deeds. You will see that he with whom you had enmity, will become your close friend.
But none will attain this quality except those who patiently endure and none will attain this quality except those who are truly fortunate."

Chapter: 41, Verses 34-35, Al-Quran
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Melinda on October 21, 2009 at 4:11 PM said...

Another wise post, PT--and how true that is. Would that all people remember to control their anger. Acting/speaking in anger accomplishes absolutely nothing. Great advice, my friend--


Ibn Hanif on October 21, 2009 at 5:42 PM said...

Melinda, Infact, I am a person with very little knowledge of Islam that's why I have choosen "PearlTrader" as my BlogCatalog username. It's to tell the readers that I am a trader of pearls not a manufacturer. I was very much impressed by a few articles present at Articlebase.Com Therefore, I decided to share it with our readers.
May Allah reward Hamil Almisk who had submitted this article at articlebase.com. Ameen.

Melinda, May Allah reward you as well for the time you you spent to read these posts and for the encouragement you give us to share more....

I wish that my team mates are also here to share a few posts or atleast a few words of prayer for me and for muslims of my country (where our leaders have divided the nation into two parts one Moderates and the Extremist. ) in particular and for the muslims all over the world in general.
Rabbana afrigh alaina sabranw wa tawwafana muslemeen. Ameen


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